It's NEVER too late to change a pattern in your life or in your relationships.
You don't always have to respond out of anger. You don't always have to hold onto that pain. You don't always have to eat that food to make yourself feel better. You don't always have to live in fear.
It might seem impossible. And in truth, it could be. But I can tell you this in truth today because I've lived it out in my own life- nothing is impossible with God.
Don't give into the lie that it will always be this way because this is how it's always been. That's not truth. Truth is that God is in the business of making all things new.
What are the things in our life that are defeating you today? What are the things you're doing because it seems that it will always be that way and never get any better? Ask God for help. Ask God to lead you to someone who can help you take steps in a different direction. Ask God for strength to do the hard things. Because it is possible.